I adore the summer light that wakes me up in mornings, I cherish the chance to enjoy a glass of wine by the river in the summer, and love the city surrounded by sun rays and warm wind. There is something pretty eccentric about summer season, isn’t? I’m just not ready for it to change.
This last year I’ve decided to turn things around for me. My busy life and wanting to achieve too much tends to bring the worst out of me, leaving me feeling constantly down. I was feeling down about myself a lot, especially in winter, and despite achieving so much already I felt I started to lack confidence. There was always new, something else I wanted to learn, do and accomplish.
After all the events we hear from news in the past months, I want to try and focus for the most part on the power of humanity and the power that is in unity, and not to fear all that celebrates our individuality, originality and freedom, the fact that we can be all different at the same time.
We’re all changing, evolving, every day experiences are shaping us, hopefully making us better whilst creating better humans. Whilst we’re ‘only’ people, we have the power to make the difference, make the world better place.
I want to be inspired to be a better human being and I want to inspire people around me.
I’ve had to learn that it’s okay ‘not to be perfect’. I want to be good in everything and the more new aspirations/plans/aims I take on, the higher is a chance that everything else will start slipping.
It’s okay not be absolutely brilliant in everything you decide to take on, it takes time. NO ONE’s ever started from the top, every little failure takes you one step closer to the better you.
Top 5 tips how to learn to grow you confidence.
I’ve learnt to accept that I can’t do it all at once, instead I’ve learnt to prioritise and balance. It wasn’t always easy and by no means I’m an expert or claiming I’ve reached some kind of ‘knowing’. It’s work in progress.
With every morning that I wake up bright and early, with every jog I finish, with every book I read and even with every ‘Me Time’ I reward myself with, I’m closer to the ‘better happier me’. Not the perfect one, just the one I’m happy with.
So how did I get there? How do I grow my confidence?
Make a list of things you love about yourself.
Confidence is a key. Make sure you’re not the one that bring yourself down. Believe in your abilities, strengths and potentials. Write down all those things that make YOU special. What do you love about yourself, what is it that makes you that beautiful smart individual. Learn to love yourself and every time when you’re in doubt, remind yourself of all those beautiful things, chin up and move forward. I’ve written a post about my top tips on how to learn love yourself and your body, we’re nowadays exposed to too much criticism. Our dysfunctional view on body image is rife and we are bombarded with what we, the society, think what we should look like
Create a list of things that make you happy
The key is to identify what you want and realise this is who you are, grab the chances, claim it as a part of who you are, a part of your life and believe in yourself. I really do think, based on my own personal experience, that it us who stand in our own way most of the time. It’s easy to blame others but if you’re ready to make a change, start with yourself.
Create a list of things that make you unhappy
Why would you do that? The reason is actually very simple. Uncover all those things that make you plain miserable and start working on eliminating them from your life. Until you’re ready to face the problem, you can’t possibly tackle it. Be brave, be strong and most of all, be patient.
Be ready to start making changes
I’ve written a post already on how to kick ass and fulfil your dreams and even now, 6 months later I still practise what I preach. Whilst I do have cheat days when I decide to just lazy around, I now thrive in opportunities and I feel energised by the fact I can in fact be responsible for making my own happiness. It was a slow start, with the initial enthusiasm burnt out after a while. I had to reach deep down to gather the strength and keep going. I have a vision, a strong plan and I’m keen to get it. I’m going to do it for myself, well because I’m worth it.
Give yourself a chance to explore new opportunities
Life is full of surprises, new unexpected turns, you never know what’s round the corner. Give yourself a chance to live a life to the brim. Listen to your heart and let your brains create a strategy. Don’t stand in your own way, move negativity out of your life, be positive and set yourself realistic expectations. Don’t be afraid to take the next step, you never know what life brings your way. Similalrly, I’ve written a post on how to learn to live in the moment, as I believe it’s important not to get caught up in our day to day troubles and enjoy life while we can.
Be grateful for what you have and achieved
You might think this is the easiest one but not for me. Very often I would find myself with lo confidence crying in the corner thinking I would never get to my end goal. The things we want always seem too far when we’re only just starting. If you believe in yourself, if you love yourself enough to make the change, you’ll get there eventually. It’s up to you whether you want to make the path to happiness happy one or whether you’ll be the one that stands in your own way.
My favourite saying is, imagine where you’re going to be in 2 years time if you start now. Imagine where you’ll be in two years if you don’t.
Outfit: I’m wearing
We had a lovely chilled morning in Leeds last Saturday, enjoying sun while it lasted. I got this Warehouse jumpsuit on sale, £25 only and have been wearing it ever since! But most of all, I felt in love with my Carvela handbag that I also got on a sale. Since we bought our house I simply can’t justify paying full price but I still enjoy shopping. If you’re budgeting like me and love a good sale, check out LoveThe Sales website as I’ve become obsessed.